Becoming a surrogate is not a decision that is made when one has not done a good self evaluation. It is a decision that needs not be taken in a hurry. It is a decision that you will keep remembering it for the rest of your life, or as long as you see the person you will give birth to.
If you are a surrogate mother, you must realize that there are things that will be going round your mind. You will have to know that you do not only have a contract that lasts for a few months.
You have got to know that you are in for a life issue. That needs to be handled with extreme care. You have got to program your mind for the assignment.
It is necessary to answer the following questions before signing up to be a surrogate:
• Where am I carrying a child of another couple? Is it money, fame, concern, hobby?
• Am I psychologically prepared to know that it will never be my baby?
• Do I feel obliged to do it?
• Do I love the exercise?
• Will I fulfill the requirements of the contract?
• Have I involved others in the decision?
• Do I know what I am getting to?
After getting answers to the above questions, you can now go ahead being pretty sure that you are quite aware of what you are doing. You will therefore need to go to the market to sell yourself as a surrogate.
If you are intending to go alone in the process, you should be well aware that you will be the one to initiate, and do all the paper work. You may seek assistance from somebody who is well versed with the industry to advise you. The most important thing in the whole process is to get to a final contract with somebody who will satisfy you, and recognize that the role you are playing is not just commercial.
How to Be a Surrogate Mother
The decision to be a surrogate mother is not one that should be done in haste; you need to sit down and think about the repercussions that come with it. Once you have decided that you want to be a surrogate, you need to know the procedure to be a surrogate mother and how to submit an application to an agency.
Why should an agency submit an application, this is because many parents seek counterparty parents through agencies. When submitting your application, you should understand the laws that govern surrogate in your country or state. The reason for this is that there are different surrogate laws in different states and countries.
You have to note that many agencies like to work with women who have already given birth; therefore, if you have never given up before the very few possibilities of consideration for the role have been completed.
After the agency receives your application, you have to make a full psychological assessment to determine whether you are psychologically correct or not.
Many agencies also require you to fill in forms. Here you will be required to answer a number of questions. The questions can be about surgery, drug use, divorce and relationships that you might have had. In some cases your husband or boyfriend may be interviewed too.
Once you have successfully completed the paper work, you must be picked by a couple. To make it easy for you to be picked, you will be required to fill a form that gives your name, date of birth, and any existing children that you have.
The form will also have your photo so that the couple can see how you look. You should note that it can take days, months, and even years before you are picked for the surrogate role.
When you are picked by a couple, you have to go through an IVF process. Here the genetic mother’s ovaries are excited using medications and the eggs are collected and fertilized using the sperms of the intended father.
Once the eggs are fertilized, they are implanted into you and you are expected to carry the pregnancy to full term and then surrender the baby once you have given birth. As of now people generally want to know Why do you need a surrogate mother?
Fertility treatments have come a long way and have provided help to many individuals and couples. But for some, the treatments did not produce the results they had hoped for: A baby.
There are various reasons why both men and women are diagnosed with infertility. While male issues primarily deal with sperm production and delivery challenges, women may be faced with the following medical health hindrances:
• Ovulation ailments
• Having been born without a uterus
• Undergone a partial or total hysterectomy
• Cervical abnormalities
• Low egg reserve
• Hormonal challenges
• Pulmonary hypertension
Today there are more options available for couples who are unable to have children either because they have fertility problems or they are a gay couple. They can choose to adopt or look for a surrogate mother.
The choice you make has to be personal since this is a very important decision. If you feel that you need to be genetically related to the child, then you need to choose surrogacy procedures. Today we have traditional surrogacy as well as gestational surrogacy. In traditional surrogacy the mother uses her own egg and the sperm is introduced via artificial insemination. Genetic surrogacy is where the surrogate carrier carries the eggs/sperms of the commissioned couple.
The other reason why many couples prefer surrogacy is because they get to choose the surrogate mother. They are fully aware about the background of the mother. When you adopt a child, you do not know the background of the parents.
Since domestic surrogacy has become very expensive, many couples have now turned to international surrogacy. India has for a while been offering couples from different countries the opportunity to have children through surrogacy. However due to the unrest in India, many couples are going to other countries. Georgia also offer international surrogacy and its laws are the best. In Georgia, it is illegal for the surrogate mother to change her mind after giving and decide to keep the baby. ARTBaby (www.surrogacycentregeorgia.com) is a surrogacy center in Georgia which assist couples in case of any difficulty during the process.
Ravi Sharma is the director at ARTbaby Global (ARThealthcare). And a successful pharmacist and a marketer. He loves to write about IVF, Surrogacy and other ART (assisted reproductive technology) news, issues, and updates. He is a Pharmacy graduate and M.B.A (marketing).