Surrogate mother interaction with intended parents

The relationship developed between the surrogate and an intended parent during the gestational period is the primary factor, which determines whether the relationship will continue between them even after the delivery of the child. In the case of local surrogacy, it has been expected that the relationship between the surrogate and intended parents become strong in the case of local surrogacy; but in many cases, strong bonding is made between the International surrogate and intended parents and that may continue after the delivery of the child also. 

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However, similar culture, language, and country-specific laws in local surrogacy may help to build an emotional connection between the surrogate and intended parents during pregnancy. Intended parents can easily meet with the surrogate and can be a part of the baby’s development, which is one of the positive signs to improve the relationship between the surrogate and intended parents.  It is considered that surrogacy is a taxing process for both surrogate and intended parents. Intended parents often experience anxious mental stress during the surrogacy program. They have much confusion about the child’s development as well as safe, hassle-free smooth handover arrangement after delivery of the child. Intended parents can build up confidence and lessen such worries when they get the opportunity to meet frequently with the surrogate.

However, some challenges in cross-broader surrogacy can cause a barrier between the surrogate and intended parents. The language barrier is one of the primary reasons which impede the development of a strong relationship between the surrogate and intended parents.

The surrogate has a typical role in helping intended parents to generate an emotional feeling with the child. Sometimes intended parents who opt the cross border surrogacy reported they feel a lack of control over the pregnancy and that creates anxiety about how their surrogate was caring for the pregnancy.  This problem can be overcome if the surrogate knows the language of the intended parents for whom she carries the pregnancy. Sharing the feelings in a common language can help to overcome the barrier in a better way.

However, the availability of a surrogacy agency helps to overcome this problem, as they act as middle management and organize the surrogacy program in a systematic way. Therefore, hassle-free surrogacy is possible even after so many barriers present in cross broader surrogacy programs. However, in some countries, the stringent rule cannot allow meeting a surrogate with the child and the intended parents after the delivery of the offspring.

Surrogates often complain of depression or emotional distress after the completion of pregnancy. Research findings also supported the fact that intended parents who do not want to maintain any relationship with the surrogate usually prefer cross-broader surrogacy instead of local surrogacy. Therefore, the relationship between the intended parents and the surrogate is completely dependent upon the mental set-up of the intended parents.  

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